Living in Harmony: A Reflection on Roles, Devotion, and the Threads We Carry

This week, in preparing for our upcoming Thread Talk with my beloved friend Christine, I found myself swimming in thought.

Christine is someone who lives many roles with heart and clarity: a daughter, a mother, a wife, a friend, a woman five years cancer-free, a business owner, a truth-teller, a light beam. And in honoring her, I started reflecting on all the roles I carry, too.

Maybe you’ve felt this lately - that sense of holding so many threads at once... some vibrant and life-giving, others fraying at the edges.

Right now, I’m living with my mom while our bungalow is being remodeled. It’s a return to daughterhood in the most tender and interesting of ways - living under the same roof again, navigating care and closeness, history and healing.

I’m also a wife, with my husband two states away, tending our other home and building a business while things take shape here.

I’m an auntie to two generations just next door. A transition coach, a doula-in-training, a ritual-keeper, a friend, an entrepreneur, a gatherer of women, a creator of circles, a weaver of sacred spaces... the list feels endless.

And I’ll admit:

Some days, I feel deeply rooted in these roles - purposeful, alive, devoted.

Other days, I feel stretched thin.

Other days, I forget where I went.

So.... here's what I’ve been wondering - and maybe you’ve been wondering it too:

Am I still connected to the roles I’m living?

Or am I simply performing them out of habit, obligation, or old definitions of worthiness?

What needs nurturing right now?

What roles are asking for more softness, more space, more support?

What needs releasing?

What narratives about "being the strong one," "doing it all," or "never dropping the ball" are keeping me from stepping into my next season?

As I prepare to talk with Christine this week, I find myself breathing into these questions... to live them... not feel the pressure to answer them perfectly.

Balance has always felt so filled with pressure. Something you achieve when you've figured it all out.

The idea of living in harmony is more connected for me. Harmony is something my body knows and can feel.

How about you?

To me, devotion is about tending the right things, in the right season, with the right kind of care... It is releasing the notion of doing all of the things all at once!

So I offer this post not as a how-to, but as a mirror.

To the woman reading this:

If you are living many roles...If you are holding a lot at once...If you are in a season of tending, or shifting, or reimagining...

Come join us.

Christine and I will be gathering around our sacred table this Thursday to talk about exactly this.

Let’s dig into the quiet courage it takes to live with the fullness of life.

The sacred rhythm of showing up without losing yourself.The strength it takes to trust ease.

Pull up a chair. Bring a friend. Let’s be brave and real with each other.

RSVP here: redthreadscollective.com/9-11-thread-talk

I’ll see you there.

In sacred sisterhood, D